Counseling for loss & infertility

In Oakland & across CA & FL

You can do everything right, yet things may not go your way.

Infertility and loss are not your fault, and they do not mean you are not meant to become a mother.

People don’t realize how isolating infertility is.

It keeps happening. Someone you know is pregnant again, and you find yourself asking the same question: “Why her and not me?” This feeling is all too familiar—the pain of trying to be happy for others while grieving the loss of your own baby or facing the uncertainty of your future family. This darkness is something you wouldn’t wish on anyone, and it’s hard to understand why it has to happen to you. Life looks so different from what you had envisioned.

  • Experiencing the loss of a baby can be incredibly painful, as you constantly find yourself envisioning what they would have looked like and the milestones they would have achieved by now. Any loss in your surroundings can trigger painful memories, and the burden of past losses can heighten your anxiety. It's not just about grieving; you are also left pondering what lies ahead for you and your family.

  • It's hard to feel anything but overwhelming worry about becoming too attached, fearing another heartbreaking loss. Each week, you hold your breath, desperately hoping everything appears healthy and normal.

  • Feeling like something is “wrong” with you can be both isolating and frustrating. It often seems that everyone else has no trouble getting pregnant, while you find yourself navigating countless fertility apps, facing negative pregnancy tests, and attending anxiety-filled doctor’s appointments. Additionally, you may receive unsolicited—sometimes hurtful—advice from those around you.

MY APPROACH

You are worthy—and always will be worthy—of a child.

What you’re going through feels like hell on earth. Some moments that hurt the most are when you have to pretend it doesn’t — but pretending to be okay doesn’t fix anything. It’s time to take care of yourself and stop suffering in silence.

I provide a compassionate and nonjudgmental environment for you to explore your emotions, fears, grief, and hopes regarding infertility or loss. When I say this is a safe space, I truly mean it. I have years of experience helping women deep in the trenches of becoming mothers. These mothers and mothers-to-be, like you, have faced devastating hardships on their journey to achieving the role they’ve always wanted, but they found hope and healing as they stepped into the light that therapy can offer.

Here, you'll discover a voice that acknowledges your experiences and guides you in finding hope again.

Together, we will develop strategies to manage the stress, anxiety, and grief that may be weighing you down. You will learn how to build resilience and discover meaningful ways to nurture yourself both emotionally and mentally. This complex journey often involves several difficult decisions related to motherhood and beyond, such as IVF, IUI, egg donation, and surrogacy. These choices can be overwhelming and physically exhausting. I will support and guide you as you navigate these options, helping you find peace with whatever decision you make.

There will also be days when we sit with your feelings. It’s essential to remember that part of the healing process involves allowing yourself intentional space and compassion. With the constant checklist that often comes with the path to motherhood, it can be tempting to stay busy or distract yourself from your pain. I will be here to remind you to slow down and breathe, to acknowledge your feelings, and to move forward at a pace that feels right for you.

Therapy for infertility & loss can help you…

  • Find hope and inner peace

  • Feel safe and comfortable in your own body

  • Move forward while honoring your losses

  • Address and navigate the overwhelming fertility options available to you

  • Embrace new pathways to parenthood

  • Heal from painful memories and experiences

  • Discover that you are not alone

  • Cultivate peace amidst uncertainty

find light and strength

Find light despite the darkness. And strength despite the pain.

Questions?

FAQs

  • Yes, therapy can be very beneficial for partners in need. I am willing to meet with anyone, not just women, and I am happy to see couples who want to work with me.

  • The timeline for therapy varies based on your individual needs and goals. Some people may find relief and healing after just a few sessions, while others might benefit from longer-term therapy. Together, we will create a plan that works best for you.

  • If you're experiencing emotional distress or grief on your journey to motherhood, therapy can be extremely helpful. Whether you are facing fertility issues, have experienced a miscarriage, or have lost a child, therapy provides a compassionate and supportive environment to assist you in the healing process.

  • I utilize various aspects of my training and experience, with integrative talk therapy and Brainspotting being my primary methods. You can learn more about Brainspotting here.

  • Yes, I work with women experiencing various forms of grief and loss, not only infertility and pregnancy.